Shugafam, you have to first remember that anger is a normal feeling, and can even be used in a positive way to help you work through issues or problems at home or at work. However, it becomes a problem when it leads to aggressive behavior, outbursts or altercations.
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It is very important to control your anger to avoid doing or saying things you may regret later. Here are 7 things you can do to help control your anger:
Anger affects your breathing as it speeds up as your temper rises. Counter that action and your anger by taking slow, deep breaths through your nose and exhaling through your mouth for several moments.
Take A Walk
Or go on a run, ride your bike... Movement and exercise can help calm your nerves and reduce the feeling of anger.
Do A Countdown
Counting numbers can help you deal with your anger, as the action diverts your tension and distracts your mind. In the time it takes you to count, your heart rate will slow down and your anger will likely subside.
Mantra, Mantra, Mantra
Pick a word or phrase that you can use to help you regain focus and calm your mind. Simply repeat it over and over again when you feel the anger begin to build up e.g. “take it easy”.
Play some music
Music can be a great way to calm the mind and the body as it eases tension. Just plug in and turn up the volume and feel the sounds soothe your mind.
When you’re angry, you may be tempted to let the words fly, but you’re more likely to do harm that good. Just take a step back and try to avoid speaking for a second. That moment without speaking will give you time to collect your thoughts.
Write it down
What you can’t say, perhaps you can write. Jot down what you’re feeling and how you want to respond. Processing it through the written word can help you calm down and reassess the events leading up to your feelings.